required reading for new mamas

This morning I sat down with my friend Hillary's mom and started planning her baby shower. It got me thinking of all the things we do to prepare for the arrival of a little one, and one thing I did was lots of reading. I wrote a post a while ago about the books I read when I was pregnant to educate myself about birth, breastfeeding, newborns, and all the stuff that comes along with them (check it out right here), but I also read a few books that were less educational and more encouraging. Becoming a parent for the first time is so wildly unlike any other experience and it was so nice to read the words of moms who have been there. These are two books I would recommend to any expecting or new mother. They'll make you smile and cry, sometimes simultaneously, and then you'll want to hold your little one extra close.

Great with Child by Beth Ann Fennelly - This book is a collection of letters that the author wrote to a friend who was expecting her first child. It reminded me that motherhood, despite it being unknown territory and therefore a little scary, is wonderful and above all else, a blessing. Her words are reassuring and encouraging, salve for the mama's soul.
Waiting for Birdy - Written by one who's expecting her second child, this book reveals the thoughts of a mother preparing to welcome another baby into the family. She writes with honesty and wit, and her recollections of conversations with her three year old son will have you laughing out loud. Having a toddler of my own made this book even more touching as I reflected on the ways Ezra has changed since he was a baby.

Do you have any great books for mothers to recommend?

image of me seven months pregnant with Ezra by Matt. More of my maternity photos here, here, and here, if you'd like to see.

what to read: new baby

Lots of my friends are expecting for the first time and their due dates are fast approaching. In fact, one just had her baby, a sweet little girl, on Tuesday! Throughout their pregnancies they've asked me every now and then for recommendations on what to read. While I am by no one's definition an expert, I wanted to share some books I've read that have helped me with this thing called parenting as well as the nine month preparation for it.

(image via Lola's Room)

I've divided the list into categories because as you'll see, there are lots of recommendations here -

general:
The New Basics by Dr. Michael Cohen - simple and practical advice that makes you wonder what all the fuss is about
The Baby Book by Dr. William and Martha Sears - this book covers everything from bonding with your newborn to toilet training
The Attachment Parenting Book by Dr. William and Martha Sears - when I worried that some parenting practices that felt right to me were unusual, the information presented here helped me trust my instincts

on breastfeeding:
The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding by Diane Wiessinger, Diana West, and Teresa Pitman - the ultimate guide from La Leche League International, this book contains scientific data, tips from real moms, and various strategies for all aspects of breastfeeding
The Nursing Mother's Companion by Kathleen Huggins - a handy book that I turn to again and again, as it covers everything from nursing your newborn to your toddler and any bumps in the road along the way
So That's What They're For by Janet Tamaro - recommended to me by my friend Kate, this book is packed with research, tips, and funny stories from real moms that helped prepare me for breastfeeding (it was the only breastfeeding book I read while pregnant)
Ina May's Guide to Breastfeeding by Ina May Gaskin - this book delves into the health benefits of breastfeeding as well as the ways it promotes bonding between mother and child
The Breastfeeding Book by Martha and Dr. William Sears - I found tips here that weren't in any other book (and clearly I've read a lot of them), and I liked the consistency displayed throughout the Sears library - they're all comforting, reassuring, and encouraging
Fresh Milk by Fiona Giles - a funny resource that will have you laughing even as you struggle with leaking and other breastfeeding woes, the stories you read here remind you that you're not alone
Healthy Babies, Happy Moms - Not a book, but if you're in RI and struggling with breastfeeding I highly recommend giving Kathy a call. She is a miracle worker. Really, she is.

on sleep:
Good Nights by Dr. Jay Gordon - the best book I've read on sleep, this book explains the benefits of co-sleeping, bed sharing, or the family bed - whatever you want to call it. After reading Good Nights I successfully night weaned Ezra the only way I felt comfortable.
Sweet Dreams by Dr. Paul Fleiss - lots of good information on baby's natural sleep patterns
The Baby Sleep Book by Dr. William and Martha Sears - very detailed resource that will help you decide the best sleeping arrangement for your family
The No-Cry Sleep Solution by Elizabeth Pantley - gentle ways to help your baby sleep better and longer, including sleep tips for you, too!

on introducing food:
Real Food for Mother and Baby by Nina Planck - good, solid advice on what to feed yourself when you're pregnant and nursing and what to feed your baby when he's ready to start eating food. If you read Real Food and loved it, you'll love this book, too.
Baby-Led Weaning by Gill Rapley - explains how self feeding for babies works, including how to experiment with flavors and textures, the development of hand eye coordination, and enjoying meals as a family

on sign language:
Baby Signs by Drs. Linda Acredolo and Susan Goodwyn - the original baby sign language book. I loved being able to communicate with Ezra before he was verbal, and he still uses all the signs he knows. Keep in mind - he only says about seven or eight words though :)

on elimination communication:
The Diaper Free Baby by Christine Gross-Loh - great book on elimination communication and how to tune in to your baby's bathroom needs before they can talk
Diaper-Free Before 3 by Dr. Jill Lekovic - discusses the benefits of introducing the toilet (or potty) into your child's routine early

on vaccinations:
The Vaccine Book by Dr. Robert Sears - Dr. Sears sets you straight, educating you on the pros and cons of each vaccine, and suggests an alternate schedule if that's what you choose to do

Thanks for letting me share these resources and for enduring this abnormally long post! What are some of your favorite baby-related books?

mad hungry

Yesterday at Williams-Sonoma I was thrilled to see Lucinda Scala Quinn's book, Mad Hungry, on the shelf.  Lucinda is the executive food director of Martha Stewart Living Omnimedia in case you were wondering.  Feeding Matt is quite an endeavor as he is quite picky and eats quite a lot of food, and I won't be surprised if Ezra follows in his footsteps in terms of quantity of food consumption.  Hopefully Ez doesn't pick up Matt's pickiness, but that's a subject for another day.  Maybe Mad Hungry will offer some tips and tricks for feeding the men in my life.
P.S. I think I need to add this book to my cookbook library.  Did I tell you that my mom got me the mini pie maker as an early birthday gift?

thirty-one virtues

(image via red fish photos)

I once heard that Shirley Dobson wrote a prayer for her two children every morning.  I remember being impressed by such a commitment and wanting to give the gift of prayer (both on behalf of them and taught to them) to my children as well.  Since giving birth to Ezra my dedication to prayer is stronger than ever, so I was excited when my friend Jaclyn sent this list of Biblical virtues my way.  There are thirty-one virtues, one for each day of the month.  I'm looking forward to praying for Ezra to develop these qualities as he grows and matures.  How do you pray for your children?

Humility – pray for the willingness to submit (James 4:10)

Reverence – pray for the fear of the Lord (Proverbs 9:10)

Purity – pray for a desire to be clean (Matthew 5:8)

Purpose – pray for the wisdom to set goals (Proverbs 4:25)

Simplicity – pray for an uncluttered lifestyle (Romans 12:8)

Commitment – pray for dedication to the “cause” (Joshua 24:15)

Diligence – pray for a willingness to work hard (2 Peter 1:5)

Servanthood – pray for a ministry of helps (Galatians 6:9-10)

Consistency – pray for a quality of faithfulness (James 1:8)

Assurance – pray for depth of faith (Hebrews 10:22)

Availability – pray for a willingness to go (Isaiah 6:8)

Loyalty – pray for a zeal for fidelity (Ruth 1:16)

Sensitivity – pray for openness of heart (Luke 10:30-37)

Compassion – pray for love to be exhibited in action (Mark 8:1-2)

Tenderness – pray for a willingness to weep (2 Kings 22:19)

Maturity – pray for the capacity to grow (Hebrews 5:12-14)

Holiness – pray for Christ-like behavior (1 Peter 1:16)

Reliability – pray for a depth of dependability (1 Corinthians 4:2)

Revelation – pray for the ability to listen (Ephesians 1:15-18)

Denial – pray for a spirit of sacrifice and surrender (Luke 9:23)

Confidence – pray for a spirit of boldness (Philippians 4:13)

Integrity – pray for a quality of truthfulness (Romans 12:17)

Repentance – pray for a willingness to change (Luke 3:8)

Trust – pray for fearless reliance (Psalm 125:1)

Submission – pray for a willingness to yield (Ephesians 5:21)

Teachability – pray for a quality of meekness (Titus 3:2)

Prayer – pray for a longing to wait (Isaiah 40:31)

Unity – pray for a respect for others (1 Corinthians 1:10)

Restoration – pray for a ministry of healing (Isaiah 61:1-2)

Authority – pray for a capacity to command (Matthew 16:19)

Generosity – pray for the desire to give (Matthew 10:8)

[adapted from the Modern Day Joseph blog]

how to be an artist

My mom had this poem printed for me on a piece of wall art that was created by my cousin when I graduated from high school.  I wanted to write a post about it so that I never forget it.  My favorite lines are "giggle with children" and "listen to old people."
By Sark

matchbook magazine

Are you a Matchbook girl?  Visit Matchbook to browse the first issue.  So far I'm loving it!  From Katie Armour, Jane Lilly Warren, and Fallon Hogerty.

i love you much (most beautiful darling)

(image via claudia kay)

I read the first verse of this poem the other day, painted, framed, and for sale in a shop downtown.  Loved it and wanted to share...


i love you much (most beautiful darling)
more than anyone on the earth and i
like you better than everything in the sky


-sunlight and singing welcoming your coming


although winter may be everywhere
with such a silence and such a darkness
noone can quite begin to guess


(except my life) the true time of year-


and if what calls itself a world should have
the luck to hear such singing (or glimpse such
sunlight as will leap higher than high
through gayer than gayest someone's heart at your each


nearness) everyone certainly would (my
most beautiful darling) believe in nothing but love


- e.e. cummings